Monday, February 25, 2013

New(ish) furniture!

I mentioned in my last post that we haven't had a couch in over a year. This is something I was determined to change when we moved. See, the main reason we have waited so long is that we haven't been able to get a moving truck, and now finally we have the money to do that. I was so excited this morning when Nathan and I got to go thrifting for furniture.
Now I'm a firm believer that most everything you might need for your home can be found in thrift stores, but I'm also realistic about it. For US, we needed to find something clean and as new as possible because unless it's a dining room chair, I can't reupholster anything myself (although I plan on learning). A friend of a friend does it, and she is very good, but it's pretty expensive and we just need every dollar we have right now.
The other challenge at hand was that we needed to be able to find it today. We don't have another month or even another week to do our shopping - our schedule is jam-packed until we move this Saturday. And we needed to get Salvation Army to break their own rules for us just this once, allowing us to keep our furniture at the store for another 5 days, even though policy is that it must be picked up within 24 hours.
And thirdly, we had to find something in our price range. I planned on spending between $80-$150. It's a pretty generous range, but even so.... all the challenges we had were making me think it couldn't be done.
We got to Salvation Army and they were having a huge sale, so the store was packed. I pushed my way into the furniture section looking for a beautiful couch and what did I see? The usual. Purple paisley, orange stripes, wooden arms on overstuffed couches. Sure enough, I figured, there was nothing. No beautiful neutral-colored, clean-lines, well-maintained couch for our new home.
Suddenly, I hear one of the workers behind me. "Excuse me ma'am," he says, "Gotta bring some furniture through."
I moved aside, allowing the always-polite staff of the store through, and what were they bringing in? A lovely cream-colored couch! It looked new, it had those clean lines I love, it wasn't overstuffed but it was still comfy. It was the couch - MY couch!
I looked at the price tag. $150. Ouch. That was a little high. But maybe it was worth it? What to do? People start crowding around me like vultures around a freshly-killed rabbit, and I'm standing there wondering why the manna isn't filet mignon! Don't be picky, V! Buy the couch!
But there was one other obstacle. Nathan. That man I'm married to and who I love is very very picky about his furniture. He and I have opposite tastes. He likes country homes with comfy furniture and oil paintings of landscapes while I prefer modern furniture and sculptures and things that are completely unique. Would he love this couch as much as I did?
I brought him over and he looked at it. He circled around it 3 or 4 times (again, the vultures come to mind), and then he sits down. I can't read his face. He's sitting on it while 3 or 4 others are eyeing it from across the aisle. After ten minutes and a near anxiety attack from me, he finally answers. "I think I like it," he says.
That's good enough for me.
So I rush up front to pay, but as I go I see the guys with a cute little blue reading chair. It's exactly what I was looking for! And then a sideboard. Now I wasn't in love with it right away, but at $65 I could compromise. I get up front and talk to the manager, telling her I really love the furniture, but that I can not pick it all up until Saturday, etc. She very politely reminded me of their usual policy. "Can I pay extra?" I asked.
"It's $10 a day for each item."
That's $150 bucks for all three items. That's the same amount as it was just to buy the couch. I couldn't afford it, and I told her so.
"Look, you come here all the time," she smiled. "If you're absolutely sure you'll be here on Saturday, and if you get all 3 aid for today, I'll charge you only $10 a day for all of it together."
$50,,,, that I could do.
So I paid for my couch and sideboard and $35 chair. Not a bad day. Not a bad day at all.


Never underestimate the awesomeness that is thrift stores!

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Wanting What I Have

We're about to move into a new apartment next week and I'm kinda dreading it. On the one hand, I'm very excited to start decorating a new place. It's like a clean slate. There is so much more storage and more room in general, and I'm really looking forward to finally living in a relatively clutter-free home.
On the other hand, moving means buying supplies, and supplies often take you to parts of the store that are full of home-improvement supplies, which for me might as well be rows and rows of designer handbags. I'm walking down the paint aisle looking at all the really great brands, and I know I can't afford paint that's $40 a gallon. It's so beautiful. I go to the craft aisle, and I want to buy everything and fill my home with homemade, personal projects. But I don't have that much money. And on and on, aisle after aisle, I find disappointment after disappointment.
We got a couple of things for the new place - a handmade piece of artwork from etsy.com for $35, a couple of dollar-store craft pieces, and we will soon be buying a thrift store sofa and sideboard. But other than that, I have to use good old-fashioned creativity to redecorate our new home. This makes me sad and here's why:
I want more money. There, I said it. I don't want to have to find ways to use the same things over and over again hoping for a different result each time (isn't that what someone said is the definition of insanity?!?!). I mean, I LOVE thrift stores and I will always shop secondhand as long as people are selling secondhand. But I walked into Michael's today and saw so many beautiful home decorations. They weren't even expensive! I think the thing I wanted most was this white porcelain lantern and it was only $15. But it was $15 I couldn't spare. $15 I didn't have. $15 I needed to use for buying diapers for my baby.
I came home from shopping for the things I did have to get and I looked at our home. Toys shoved into bins, overflowing pantry, more books than my shelves have room for - not to mention the fact that we haven't had a sofa in over a year. I thought about all the things we don't have. We don't have enough storage. We don't have the right furniture. Our son and daughter have to share a bedroom. We don't have area rugs. We don't have enough bookshelves. We don't have this. We don't have that. We don't have ANYTHING!!!!
And then I looked at the kids. My daughter doesn't know she doesn't have a sofa. She sits on my lap in the recliner and plays with my hair. She calls me "Mama." She kisses me before bedtime and tells me she loves me. My son is barely 5 months old. He smiles all the time! I've never seen a baby so happy. Everything is fun to him. He doesn't know what we don't have - he doesn't even know what we DO have. He's a baby. They're both babies. Their lives aren't polluted with knowing what they're supposed to have or are expected to own. They just love eachother and they love us and they love everything.
And when my daughter hugs me around the leg and kisses my hip and says thank you after I give her a glass of water, I know it doesn't matter what I don't have. I have her, and I have her brother, and I have their father. And I have a roof over my head and I have food in my fridge and I have love in my home and I have friends and I have church and I have EVERYTHING!!!
Life is not easy. Pain, sickness, poverty, and need happens. And it seems to be happening a lot more often to a lot more people lately. There really is no secret to being happy in an unhappy world. It's as simple as counting your blessings. And I know that sounds cliché... and it kind of is... but it really does work.
I can't wait to spruce up the new place and assemble it over time. I look forward to my kids entering the years of their lives when they will actually be able to cultivate memories they will keep for a long time. I want to have a happy home, and I know that has nothing to do with what we have, but everything to do with who we're with. I have what I want because I want what I have, and I wouldn't change it for all the fancy porcelain lanterns in the world.